How Are You Speaking to Yourself?

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I used to speak to myself with such unkindness, most of the time not even realizing it or it’s impact.

Luckily, I no longer do and shared a bit of my story in my most recent Huffington Post blog.

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Hope you enjoy… and think about share your story, or this article, with your daughters. It might be a new and invaluable perspective.

 

If you do the 24 Hour Challenge, please report back because I’d LOVE to hear how it goes.

You can share on any of the social platforms:

  • Twitter: @TurnerCoaching
  • Facebook: @GOOYOW – This is a closed Facebook group, so you know that the women in here are just like you. Wanting to thrive at work and in life, but we don’t know what we don’t know.  Be sure to join!  I’d love to hear from you.

Or simply stay connected on Insta: @GetOutOfOwnWay

Have an amazing day!

I Dropped The Ball

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It’s been a long time since I’ve shared.

As working women I know you can relate to juggling too many balls.  The feeling of just too much – that something has to give. My blog was a ball I chose to drop. 

I dropped it with a choice to be kind to myself. Full stop.

 

But now I’m back.

I have clarity and intention.

My mission is to be back in service to women just like us.

Women who want to:

  •        Thrive at work and in life but too often feel like we are failing at both.
  •         Do what we have been avoiding with increased confidence.
  •         Expand our networks in ways that add value to us and work within our schedule
  •         Connect with other like-minded women in relevant and productive ways
  •         Stop feeling like we are alone.
  •         Learn and leverage how others navigate similar scenarios

Sure, but why does it feel like such a challenge sometimes? 

Because this is life and our lives are full.  

And…it is the ONLY life we have to live.

What I now know is that the details around us are not going to change, just how we choose to navigate them can. 

But, we don’t know what we don’t know. 

Which leads me to my mission.  

My mission is to be an outlet for women, just like us. To plug into and to create the change we desire.  To leverage the experiences of other women in service of each other. I have some exciting new projects on the go that I CAN’T wait to share!

But in the meantime…

I just wrote a Huffington Post article titled: Is Status Quo Killing You? .

A great place to start is choosing to do things differently. To start taking inspired action. To get out of your own way, #GOOYOW, so you can live a life that brings you way more fun, joy, and success. 

Until the next time!

Best wishes, me.

Using Gratitude as a Tool For Success

Canadian Thanksgiving weekend has just come to a close.

What I love about this past weekend is that it creates a time when we intentionally focus on what we are grateful for.

I believe that no matter what our circumstances are, everybody has something to be grateful for.

Even in my toughest moments, gratitude is what has helped me navigate through.

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Expectations – 3 Steps to Managing Your Own For Success

I’m not a yogi. Haven’t been in over 9 years.

In keeping with my plan from “3 Steps to a New Beginning” one of my goals was to prioritize my strength, so I signed up for one yoga class.

I have been a runner my whole life and I figured I’d be ok. But I wasn’t.

I couldn’t even keep my arms up during poses and I kept having to stand up before my legs gave out. I ate a big piece of humble pie in the class and it sparked this post.

My expectations were TOTALLY unrealistic.

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2 Tips To Make Your Summer Count

The school year has just ended, or is about to, for many of us. The kids are excited….but I can’t necessarily say the same for their parents.

As a working mother, in the past I have felt very challenged by the summer months. Trying to juggle my career ambitions and goals, with the desire to be a present and engaged mom.

ARGH!

No matter if you are a parent, or not, you can use this post to set your intentions for the next few months, to help make your summer months count.

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Permission to Stop Giving

I was recently ‘stood up’, by a no-show, despite the fact that I had carved time out my schedule to give to someone for free.

I was annoyed.

I was giving my time away because I felt I SHOULD and it wasn’t received or valued.

MY BAD.

I have realized that for me there’s a clear distinction between giving something away that I WANT to, and giving something away I feel I HAVE to or SHOULD.

The no-show was MY reminder that it’s up to me to start creating my own boundaries for what I WANT to be giving away.

I know I’m not alone.

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4 Tips to Stop Minimizing What You Have to Say

The topic of low self-confidence has been on my radar recently and its impact on our ability to reach our goals.

Projecting low self-confidence isn’t only reserved for those who have internal self-doubt.

What I am noticing is that low self-confidence is also being unintentionally projected even by those who feel more self-assured.

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The guilt trap

 

In most of the workshops I host, when professional women talk about their lives and the need to prioritize and make decisions, the word ‘guilt’ always comes up.   Especially when talking about trying to juggle everything that’s important to us.

What’s incredible is the power that guilt can have over someone.

Guilt comes in all shapes and sizes.  Guilt of working too hard, not spending enough time at home, not spending enough time with their partners or parents, doing too little for family, for school, and on and on….

I get it.  I too feel guilty sometimes.

Luckily, I now know guilt is a choice and that it doesn’t help me, it just traps me.

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Trading perfection for results

An unsolicited email from a few days ago fueled this post.

Imagine how different life would feel if we stopped taxing ourselves with a need to be perfect? To be superhuman.

Living this way is exhausting and debilitating, and doesn’t lead to much joy.

Intellectually we ‘know’ that nobody is perfect, so why are we afraid to admit it and are often embarrassed by it?

The email I received highlighted the negative perception too many of us carry around about not having “it all together”.

The email was from a professional woman who wanted to get promoted and knew that she needed to work on a few things.

What was disheartening was that her ‘ask’ came with a veil of silence.

Her choice perspective about asking for help was seen as a weakness.

I believe the opposite is true.

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Closing the Confidence Gap

I just read The Confidence Gap, an interesting article describing why women’s and men’s are so far apart.

What I find intriguing about Katty Kay and Claire Shipman research is that it helps me to see WHY I am the way I am.

 The reasons WHY this gap exists really resonated with me. The authors share findings from Carol Dweck’s “Mindset”  (one of my favourite books) for example, early on in school, girls get a lot of praise for being perfect and that we choose to avoid taking risks and making mistakes.

I was the girl being describe throughout the article.

I still remember the only time I was in trouble was in grade 2 when I stood up for a boy who was being falsely accused by the librarian!

But, knowing WHY we don’t Lean In, isn’t good enough.

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