What’s the Worst Thing That Can Happen?

So often we hold ourselves back from taking action, that’s outside of our comfort zone, because of fear.

Paralyzed by a NHO “Negative Hypothetical Outcome” that of course we want to avoid.

But truthfully, we have no idea what the outcome will be until we try, yet we are committed to the fact that it’s going to be negative.

So….let’s go there…

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6 Leadership Lessons from Running

Today I wanted to quit.

I didn’t say anything out loud to my friend and running partner, but I was struggling to keep up and labouring.

After we parted ways, I stopped to catch my breath and as I walked the block back home I realized how many parallels there are between running, work and life.

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Stop. Notice. Be Grateful.

Recently, I was listening to CBC’s Gill Deacon asking listeners to share what they were most grateful for over the past week.

One listener’s response prompted this post by sharing: “The last 3 minutes it took to think about all the things I am grateful for.”

We all have something to be grateful for, no matter how crazy your life is or how awful a situation sometimes feels.

I can remember when our two week old was in the hospital for a month. At the beginning of the journey we weren’t sure what was going on.  It was a scary and crazy time but our choice was to focus on the fact that we were so grateful to have access to amazing doctors and facilities.

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It was a choice.

Gratitude is an antidote for so many things.

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How to Self-Promote: Even when you think you hate doing it.

When you think of self-promoting what words come to mind?

  • Cheesy
  • Sickening
  • Awkward
  • Desperate
  • Not me
  • Uncomfortable
  • Pushy, etc….

If I haven’t said yours, fill in the blank here…….

If your response is positive, that’s awesome, and feel free to stop reading here.

If it’s negative, you are not alone.

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Are you tired and uninspired?

The warmer weather helps, but our feelings are not just a product of the long and cold winter.

It’s actually what we are not doing that leaves us feeling this way.

It’s the fact that we keep going, going and going, doing, doing and doing, rarely taking the time to refuel, if at all.

This is what we do as working women.  Our plates are full and we just need to keep going.

We chalk it up as our reality and it often feels like not much can or will ever change.

We feel…..

Tired and Uninspired

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3 Ways to Own your Value and Self-Promote

The other day I was on a call with a client who was trying to figure out how to make sure the right people were aware of the value she brings.

She needed to self-promote.

When you think of self-promoting what words come to mind?

Cheesy, inauthentic, awkward, cheap, uncomfortable, pushy, etc…. 

If I haven’t said yours, fill in the blank here…….

Unfortunately self-promoting is something that so many of us shy away from because it feels uncomfortable.

The reality is self-promoting is something we all need to do, unless status quo is what you are going for.

No matter what your title may be, we have to sell ourselves because there are so many others doing exactly what we do.

Similar in titles and years of experience, but NOT why and how we do it.

If you don’t self-promote, you are choosing to swim amongst the sea of fish, vs stand out so you can be seen. Valued.

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3 Ways to Own Your Value and Self-Promote:

1.     The YOU Factor         

What do you want to own that truly set you apart and makes you YOU?

What experiences in your life do you want to acknowledge that you draw on or are transferable, relevant and add value to the outcomes you create?

Trust that your YOU factor doesn’t have to be shared with anyone else. It just has to be owned, acknowledged and valued by you.

Your YOU factor is about acknowledging and drawing from other aspects of your life that impact the way you work, the why and how you go about doing what you do.  It’s what differentiates you amongst the sea of fish.

It’s what sets you apart from the rest. 

It’s the YOU Factor that’s creates your unique value.

It’s the same for you as a CA, CFA, marketer, consultant, publicist, sales person, whatever your title may be.

The landscape is littered with executive coaches.  I am technically a dime a dozen amongst those who have graduated from the same certification program, have been practicing for the same number of years or more.  If I were to hang my hat up on my title or my years of experience you wouldn’t be reading this post.

2.     It Doesn’t Serve To Play Small  

Marianne Williamson says it best “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?  …”   You can read the rest of the quote at the bottom THIS page.

Who are you to play small?  Owning your value has nothing to do with ego.

3.    Celebrate and Let Them Know

The reality is that we don’t have people shadowing our every move, patting us on the back and celebrating who we are and what we are doing.

It’s for this reason that you need to stop, acknowledge and celebrate your own successes big or small.

The second step is to ask yourself “…and WHO needs to know?” 

Don’t just assume that people are paying attention. It’s your responsibility to put your accomplishment and the value you bring on their radar.

Which point resonates the most with you and why?  We’d love to hear.

 

If these resonate but you still feel uncertain about self-promoting, or anything else you are avoiding for that matter, you won’t want to miss my upcoming FREE CALL that is going to show you exactly how to do what you are avoiding.  Click HERE.

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Do you feel like you are drowning?

So why don’t you matter?

This isn’t a comfortable question, but seriously.

There is an epidemic of women who put themselves last so that others can thrive.

This status quo is absolutely at our own expense. 

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Using Gratitude as a Tool For Success

Canadian Thanksgiving weekend has just come to a close.

What I love about this past weekend is that it creates a time when we intentionally focus on what we are grateful for.

I believe that no matter what our circumstances are, everybody has something to be grateful for.

Even in my toughest moments, gratitude is what has helped me navigate through.

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Expectations – 3 Steps to Managing Your Own For Success

I’m not a yogi. Haven’t been in over 9 years.

In keeping with my plan from “3 Steps to a New Beginning” one of my goals was to prioritize my strength, so I signed up for one yoga class.

I have been a runner my whole life and I figured I’d be ok. But I wasn’t.

I couldn’t even keep my arms up during poses and I kept having to stand up before my legs gave out. I ate a big piece of humble pie in the class and it sparked this post.

My expectations were TOTALLY unrealistic.

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2 Tips To Make Your Summer Count

The school year has just ended, or is about to, for many of us. The kids are excited….but I can’t necessarily say the same for their parents.

As a working mother, in the past I have felt very challenged by the summer months. Trying to juggle my career ambitions and goals, with the desire to be a present and engaged mom.

ARGH!

No matter if you are a parent, or not, you can use this post to set your intentions for the next few months, to help make your summer months count.

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