How to Self-Promote: Even when you think you hate doing it.

When you think of self-promoting what words come to mind?

  • Cheesy
  • Sickening
  • Awkward
  • Desperate
  • Not me
  • Uncomfortable
  • Pushy, etc….

If I haven’t said yours, fill in the blank here…….

If your response is positive, that’s awesome, and feel free to stop reading here.

If it’s negative, you are not alone.

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3 Questions to Shut Down Your Negative “What ifs”

I was recently speaking with a client who reminded me of how debilitating “What if” can be.

The anticipated negative outcomes that we spend too much time thinking about and that lead to inaction.  

Thoughts like:

What if they don’t like it….

What if I fail…

What if I don’t land the client…

It makes sense.

None of these ‘what ifs’ are remotely appealing so why would we even bother to take any action when the anticipated outcome is so negative.

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The truth is the outcomes are unknown and we have NO idea…

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Are You Being Misinterpreted?

Do you worry about being perceived in a negative way?

It’s often this fear that keeps my clients and other women from doing what they know they need to.

Avoiding self-promotion or asking for one because they don’t want to appear arrogant, demanding, entitled, etc…

Not wanting to follow up with a client because they don’t want to be interpreted as desperate, needy, pushy, etc….

Not wanting to have a challenging conversation because they don’t want to appear confrontational, demanding, etc…

These are all possible and potential outcomes. 

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3 Habits that Will Limit Your Career and What You Can Do to Change

I was speaking with a client the other day who had lead her entire life with a deep desire and drive to prove herself, which she did time after time.  She strove for perfection and her track record was amazing.  She was a ‘go-to’ person. Everyone knew she’d get it done and well.

Despite her successes, accomplishments and promotions, she lacked a true belief in herself, which drove her need to please and prove.

She’s not alone. 

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Do you really want to act that way?

This past weekend the topic of being short tempered and impatient came up a few times.  At work, towards the people we love the most, there were no limitations.

We all do it.  We are human.

I used to have a bad temper.  My buttons easily pushed by those closest to me.

My excuse, “It’s just the way I am, I can’t help it”.

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Are you tired and uninspired?

The warmer weather helps, but our feelings are not just a product of the long and cold winter.

It’s actually what we are not doing that leaves us feeling this way.

It’s the fact that we keep going, going and going, doing, doing and doing, rarely taking the time to refuel, if at all.

This is what we do as working women.  Our plates are full and we just need to keep going.

We chalk it up as our reality and it often feels like not much can or will ever change.

We feel…..

Tired and Uninspired

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My 5 Leadership Lessons from Boxing

I love to box.

I started in University 19 years ago and I was training to get in the ring.  There was only one problem, I had no desire to punch another human being in the face. I chalk this up to being one of three girls and my eldest sister wouldn’t even let my leg touch hers in the car.

I loved the intensity of the training though, so I continued outside of the ring.

I ended up training in Halifax for a few years and then stopped until last year when I started again at Center Ring with some amazing trainers. I only go once a week but this past week’s experience prompted this post.

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Looking back, MY 5 LESSONS started at the very beginning.

1.    STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS.

I never would have assumed that something amazing would come out of a dingy boxing gym in the basement of a church in Halifax.  That two men from my gym would introduce me to my husband.  (Total tangent: The best part of the ‘how we met’ story, is that I only spoke to the three of them for a few minutes but when I walked away, my husband told his friends “That’s the girl I’m going to marry….” and 19 year later here we are.)

YOU?  What assumptions are you making that are limiting you? 

Own it and stop it, because you never know. I may never have met Scott had I not been willing to try something new either.

2.  GET INSPIRED.

On my way to the gym that day, I was listening to an interview with a musician who eight months ago had been interviewed by the same person, at a very small and obscure club. Fast forward eight months and tickets to see him were selling for $1,800.  Listening to his story was so inspiring because who knows what can or will change if you continue to move forward, purposefully.

YOU? If you aren’t feeling inspired, it’s up to you to change in the moment.  Here are a few of my favourites:  audiobooks, books, videos, TED Talks, going for a coffee with someone who inspires me, etc….

3. YOU ARE A LEADER, despite how qualified you think you are.

After an hour of hitting the heavy bag, the woman beside me came over and said “I am so glad I was beside you. I was following you. You inspired me to work harder.”   I was reminded that we have no idea who is looking to or at us. No matter what our title is, how many years of experience we’ve had or how good we think we are or are not, we are all leadersWe have no idea who we are inspiring. 

YOU? If you can’t own this fact, Robin Sharma wrote a great book  titled The Leader Who Had No Title

4. YOU DON’T KNOW YOUR LIMITS.

I was just about to give up, I was exhausted, but decided to see if I could go further…and I could. It’s up to us to push past our Self Imposed Limits.  

YOU? Here’s a challenge, no matter what you are doing this week, whenever you are at the point of giving up, challenge yourself to take inspired action to push past what you think is possible and you’ll be amazed.

5. SHUT DOWN NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.

I was having my hands wrapped before class and in conversation our trainer mentioned that he doubted 26 people would come today. That’s our class max. Guess what, 26 came.  It adds no value to have limiting thoughts.  Why bother spending the time and energy on what we don’t want to happen.

YOU? What would happen if over the next week, you were really mindful about what you are thinking and saying.  Stop saying the: “I doubt…”, “It will never happen..”, “I can’t….”, “It’s not possible…”

Which one of these 5 lessons resonates the most? 

Here’s an opportunity:  Focus on that one point for the balance of the week. See what changes for you. 

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Revealing Your Flaws: 3 Reasons Why You Should

I was recently welcomed into a group of great women at KPMG in Toronto. I was there to give my talk titled “Getting Out of Your Own Way: How to take confident action, outside of your comfort zone, for exceptional results.”

Every time I host the session what amazes me is what happens when the women in my audience choose to let their armour down and get real.

By being real, I mean a willingness to be truthful. To share not only their good experiences.

Acknowledging that they haven’t figured everything out. That they aren’t perfect.

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Expectations – 3 Steps to Managing Your Own For Success

I’m not a yogi. Haven’t been in over 9 years.

In keeping with my plan from “3 Steps to a New Beginning” one of my goals was to prioritize my strength, so I signed up for one yoga class.

I have been a runner my whole life and I figured I’d be ok. But I wasn’t.

I couldn’t even keep my arms up during poses and I kept having to stand up before my legs gave out. I ate a big piece of humble pie in the class and it sparked this post.

My expectations were TOTALLY unrealistic.

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3 Questions to Minimize Your Fear and Take Action

I did it.

I faced my fear.

Yes, it’s my job to help professional women to Get Out of Their Own Way….and I too have to practice what I preach.

I was sitting on the ledge.  Wanting to go into unchartered territories…but avoiding.  I have a goal of launching P.O.W.E.R Advisory Boards within corporations.  An opportunity for professional women, across business units, to connect and learn from each other’s experiences.

To stop trying to figure it out alone. 

I know that shared experiences decrease learning curves and increase results. But most importantly, they create the opportunity for women to expand their networks, authentically, with other like-minded, ambitious women, who want to thrive as a whole, at work and in life.

Despite the fact that I know how impactful, effective and helpful this is, I wasn’t taking action.  I was scared.

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