3 Steps to Take the Struggle Out of Your Juggle

I don’t like the word balance.

I feel that it sets us up for disappointment, and feelings of failure, inadequacy and overwhelm.

In the search for “balance” we often end up simply adding more balls to the ones we are already struggling to juggle.

Spending our everyday just passing ball after ball through the air on autopilot.

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3 Steps to Shut Down the Stories that Are Limiting Your Career

Amongst the network of women I work and play with, I am constantly reminded of how often we miss out on opportunities because of the negative stories we are telling ourselves.Fear.StoriesTellOurselves

Do any of these sound familiar?

I don’t want to ask my question because I don’t want to sound dumb.

I can’t follow up with her or ask for the business because I don’t want to seem desperate.

I can’t say anything to my colleague because I don’t want him to take it the wrong way.

I don’t want to lead that team because I may not have all of the answers.

If these don’t resonate, here’s a chance to acknowledge your own sentence:

I don’t want to…………….. because……………………..

In all of these scenarios we are assuming that our outcomes are going to be negative.

The irony is that the outcomes are UNKNOWN. We don’t actually know what’s going to happen, but are willing to limit ourselves before we’ve even tried.

When I find myself in this situation, I remind myself that for every negative hypothetical outcome I am making up, there’s always another way to slice it.

What are you not doing because of a negative story you are telling yourself? What action are you not taking because of  hypothetical outcome you are avoiding?

Here are 3 Questions to ask yourself so you can start leveraging your opportunities to thrive.

#1: What’s the limiting story you are telling yourself. (If I do “X”, then “Y” will happen.)

#2: What’s a positive hypothetical outcome?

#3: What’s the impact if you don’t take this action?

I believe that we are the biggest obstacles standing in our own way of success.

The stories we tell ourselves play a huge part in this. When you find yourself committed to a negative hypothetical outcome, remember that you are choosing to limit yourself and your career.

3 Steps to A New Beginning

September feels like a new beginning. I know I am not alone.

Between my friends and clients it is amazing how many have shared the same.

Sometimes our new beginnings are FORCED, like my client who was told she has to look for another job.

Other times, it’s a CHOICE, like for my friend who has chosen to quit the job she hated…
And then there’s everything in between from divorce to moving cities, etc.

For me, my new beginning stems from the fact that I chose to unplug and totally disconnect from work over the summer. There were so many benefits and I feel very grateful to have done it, however it does come at a cost.

My calendar feels less than stellar and it’s time for me to re-focus to make sure that one year from now, I don’t look back and feel that I’m still in the same spot.

Even if you don’t have a new beginning “happening”, you can Choose for September to be an intentional starting point.

Here are three things I am going to do and you can too:

#1 STOP AND GET CLEAR.
This is where we get clarity about what we want to transpire between now and 6, 10, 12 months from now, or whatever time frame works for you.

You can even start by asking yourself:

“What do I want more of?” and “What do I want less of?”

Then get SPECIFIC about your goals.
I find that with a plan, I feel like I am in the driver’s seat, vs having my wheels spinning and not making any traction.

#2 TAKE ACTION.
Enough said.
A tactic is to schedule your activity. Put your priorities into your calendar to make time for them.

#3 BE GRATEFUL
This summer I was introduced to a really simple concept that resonated with me.

The concept comes from a man who I had never heard of prior to watching his video. His name is Vishen Lakhiani of www.mindvalley.com. He shares how his business and life thrive and prosper when he’s in FLOW.

Which in concept is a balance between being:

GRATEFUL AND HAPPY FOR TODAY       AND       HAVING A CLEAR VISION OF WHERE YOU ARE GOING

I know that I often get stuck and focus on what I have yet to achieve or the gap between where I am vs where I want to be, or what I’m not doing.

I know it’s not helpful.

It impacts my ability to enjoy the moment and be happy for what I have created and have in my life.

I know that feeling happy propels me at work and in life to do better.
So, being in FLOW is my new Choice.

I invite you to follow these 3 steps and create your purposeful beginning too.

 

3 Tips to Avoid Complacency

I promise I wasn’t being complacent when I didn’t post last week.

It was a choice. I value every second of holiday that I have with my family and had committed to not working while we were away. I didn’t give myself space to even think about work.

I guess my ability to compartmentalize is a gift, but it comes at a cost.

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Self acknowledgement…we all need it

 

A call this morning with a great women influenced this post.

We spoke today for the first time and it was incredible to hear about her accomplishments, her approach to work and life but what stood out the most was a comment that she made about needing validation and recognitionDespite the stellar job she does in her job and her accelerated career she is still waiting to be validated externally to confirm her value.

Do you need to receive outside acknowledgment to fuel you?  If so, you are not alone, this I know!

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Prioritizing work over life….

I was speaking with a friend the other day who told me that for 2 years she’s been meaning to be the parent volunteer for her child’s kindergarten class. Her work is insanely busy and she’s had no time. The child was now graduating into grade one and the opportunity is now gone. Retrospectively, had she booked off the time, like she does for dentist apts and meetings, she could have made it happen.
Opportunity lost.
This really resonated because I too know that there are certain things that are important to me, yet I still take little or no action on them.

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What if…….

To celebrate a win, I was recently contracted by TD Bank to create a goal setting Workbook.  I will be using this workbook to guide high performing female entrepreneur through the exercise in workshops beginning in September.  Yeah!

I have been working on this project for almost a month, but prior to sending over my first draft a few days ago the “What ifs” started…..
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The Upside of Goal Setting

Until the last few years, I NEVER set goals.  I actually avoided committing to ANY specific desired outcome.  My reason ….I trusted that I was always doing my best, so if I fell short of my goals, I didn’t want to feel badly about it. 

I realize now that this was a COP OUT

By not having a clear idea of what I wanted to create in my life and work,  I was allowing myself to live and stay within my comfort zone. 

There’s nothing wrong with living in your comfort zone, but for me in order to live the best version of my life, I know with 100% certainty, it means stepping outside of my comfort zone. Continue reading