Do You Need to Lean Out?

I recently had a conversation with an awesome, confident, ambitious, strategic and hard working woman.  She is a ‘go to’ person that everyone knows will get the job done.

She’s constantly accessing the landscape between where she is, where she wants to go and what she can do to make it happen.

She says yes to stretch opportunities.

She’s unafraid of taking action that’s outside of her comfort zone.

She’s always leaning in.

She needs to start leaning out.

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3 Ways to Own your Value and Self-Promote

The other day I was on a call with a client who was trying to figure out how to make sure the right people were aware of the value she brings.

She needed to self-promote.

When you think of self-promoting what words come to mind?

Cheesy, inauthentic, awkward, cheap, uncomfortable, pushy, etc…. 

If I haven’t said yours, fill in the blank here…….

Unfortunately self-promoting is something that so many of us shy away from because it feels uncomfortable.

The reality is self-promoting is something we all need to do, unless status quo is what you are going for.

No matter what your title may be, we have to sell ourselves because there are so many others doing exactly what we do.

Similar in titles and years of experience, but NOT why and how we do it.

If you don’t self-promote, you are choosing to swim amongst the sea of fish, vs stand out so you can be seen. Valued.

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3 Ways to Own Your Value and Self-Promote:

1.     The YOU Factor         

What do you want to own that truly set you apart and makes you YOU?

What experiences in your life do you want to acknowledge that you draw on or are transferable, relevant and add value to the outcomes you create?

Trust that your YOU factor doesn’t have to be shared with anyone else. It just has to be owned, acknowledged and valued by you.

Your YOU factor is about acknowledging and drawing from other aspects of your life that impact the way you work, the why and how you go about doing what you do.  It’s what differentiates you amongst the sea of fish.

It’s what sets you apart from the rest. 

It’s the YOU Factor that’s creates your unique value.

It’s the same for you as a CA, CFA, marketer, consultant, publicist, sales person, whatever your title may be.

The landscape is littered with executive coaches.  I am technically a dime a dozen amongst those who have graduated from the same certification program, have been practicing for the same number of years or more.  If I were to hang my hat up on my title or my years of experience you wouldn’t be reading this post.

2.     It Doesn’t Serve To Play Small  

Marianne Williamson says it best “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?  …”   You can read the rest of the quote at the bottom THIS page.

Who are you to play small?  Owning your value has nothing to do with ego.

3.    Celebrate and Let Them Know

The reality is that we don’t have people shadowing our every move, patting us on the back and celebrating who we are and what we are doing.

It’s for this reason that you need to stop, acknowledge and celebrate your own successes big or small.

The second step is to ask yourself “…and WHO needs to know?” 

Don’t just assume that people are paying attention. It’s your responsibility to put your accomplishment and the value you bring on their radar.

Which point resonates the most with you and why?  We’d love to hear.

 

If these resonate but you still feel uncertain about self-promoting, or anything else you are avoiding for that matter, you won’t want to miss my upcoming FREE CALL that is going to show you exactly how to do what you are avoiding.  Click HERE.

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Are You Good Enough?

This week a client shared that she was offered a promotion that would mean leaving her comfort zone.

She’d be doing the same type of job, but in a new environment, with new colleagues, new clients and with a lot of unknowns.

She came to the call questioning if she was good enough for this new job.

Early on in our discussion she rarely acknowledged the reinforcing facts that they approached her, the service she provides for her clients, the positive things people say about her work, etc…

It’s incredible how often we default to thinking poorly about and questioning ourselves. 

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Setting Boundaries Isn’t Selfish

I have come to realize that boundaries are really important.

Boundaries help me to survive and thrive so that I don’t feel like I’m drowning and can create the space to do what’s actually important to me.

Boundaries were never roll modeled for me.  I was born into a family of women who were super human.  My primary role models were my mom and her identical twin sister.  The two of them did everything for everyone, but last of all for themselves. I have memories of my mom staying up ironing until 2 a.m.

Where’s the joy in that!

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Using Gratitude as a Tool For Success

Canadian Thanksgiving weekend has just come to a close.

What I love about this past weekend is that it creates a time when we intentionally focus on what we are grateful for.

I believe that no matter what our circumstances are, everybody has something to be grateful for.

Even in my toughest moments, gratitude is what has helped me navigate through.

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3 Questions to Minimize Your Fear and Take Action

I did it.

I faced my fear.

Yes, it’s my job to help professional women to Get Out of Their Own Way….and I too have to practice what I preach.

I was sitting on the ledge.  Wanting to go into unchartered territories…but avoiding.  I have a goal of launching P.O.W.E.R Advisory Boards within corporations.  An opportunity for professional women, across business units, to connect and learn from each other’s experiences.

To stop trying to figure it out alone. 

I know that shared experiences decrease learning curves and increase results. But most importantly, they create the opportunity for women to expand their networks, authentically, with other like-minded, ambitious women, who want to thrive as a whole, at work and in life.

Despite the fact that I know how impactful, effective and helpful this is, I wasn’t taking action.  I was scared.

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3 Steps to A New Beginning

September feels like a new beginning. I know I am not alone.

Between my friends and clients it is amazing how many have shared the same.

Sometimes our new beginnings are FORCED, like my client who was told she has to look for another job.

Other times, it’s a CHOICE, like for my friend who has chosen to quit the job she hated…
And then there’s everything in between from divorce to moving cities, etc.

For me, my new beginning stems from the fact that I chose to unplug and totally disconnect from work over the summer. There were so many benefits and I feel very grateful to have done it, however it does come at a cost.

My calendar feels less than stellar and it’s time for me to re-focus to make sure that one year from now, I don’t look back and feel that I’m still in the same spot.

Even if you don’t have a new beginning “happening”, you can Choose for September to be an intentional starting point.

Here are three things I am going to do and you can too:

#1 STOP AND GET CLEAR.
This is where we get clarity about what we want to transpire between now and 6, 10, 12 months from now, or whatever time frame works for you.

You can even start by asking yourself:

“What do I want more of?” and “What do I want less of?”

Then get SPECIFIC about your goals.
I find that with a plan, I feel like I am in the driver’s seat, vs having my wheels spinning and not making any traction.

#2 TAKE ACTION.
Enough said.
A tactic is to schedule your activity. Put your priorities into your calendar to make time for them.

#3 BE GRATEFUL
This summer I was introduced to a really simple concept that resonated with me.

The concept comes from a man who I had never heard of prior to watching his video. His name is Vishen Lakhiani of www.mindvalley.com. He shares how his business and life thrive and prosper when he’s in FLOW.

Which in concept is a balance between being:

GRATEFUL AND HAPPY FOR TODAY       AND       HAVING A CLEAR VISION OF WHERE YOU ARE GOING

I know that I often get stuck and focus on what I have yet to achieve or the gap between where I am vs where I want to be, or what I’m not doing.

I know it’s not helpful.

It impacts my ability to enjoy the moment and be happy for what I have created and have in my life.

I know that feeling happy propels me at work and in life to do better.
So, being in FLOW is my new Choice.

I invite you to follow these 3 steps and create your purposeful beginning too.

 

Knowing When to Say Yes and When to Say No!

I am back much later than I said I would be and here’s why.

Can you relate to having full plates, wearing a tone of hats and knowing that you can’t possibly do it all?

That was me post summer when I returned from holiday.   I knew I needed to sit down and become REALLY clear on what it was that I wanted to achieve in life and work, so that I knew what I needed to focus on during my day.  Taking the time to clearly see where I wanted to be in September 2014 allowed me to know what I could say NO to, and what I could say YES to those actions that would truly have an impact on achieve my goals.  I call them True Priorities vs Busy Priorities. 

 

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