3 Leadership Lessons from Yoga

After almost a decade hiatus from yoga I decided to try again six months ago – but quit after one class because I got hurt.

I allowed my competitive, “try your best”, self to take over…and yoga won.

Since then I have turned 40 and my body is screaming at me to do something differently, so I decided to check my ego at the door and try again.

The class was SO HARD.

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3 Questions to Shut Down Your Negative “What ifs”

I was recently speaking with a client who reminded me of how debilitating “What if” can be.

The anticipated negative outcomes that we spend too much time thinking about and that lead to inaction.  

Thoughts like:

What if they don’t like it….

What if I fail…

What if I don’t land the client…

It makes sense.

None of these ‘what ifs’ are remotely appealing so why would we even bother to take any action when the anticipated outcome is so negative.

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The truth is the outcomes are unknown and we have NO idea…

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Feeling Guilty is a Choice

I just finished a roadshow that had me away for 9 days.

My husband was hoping I’d come home from Calgary on the Friday for the weekend then back out for a Tuesday workshop.

With 3 kids 9 and under he thought this sounded reasonable.

I decided not to come home. 

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Do You Need to Lean Out?

I recently had a conversation with an awesome, confident, ambitious, strategic and hard working woman.  She is a ‘go to’ person that everyone knows will get the job done.

She’s constantly accessing the landscape between where she is, where she wants to go and what she can do to make it happen.

She says yes to stretch opportunities.

She’s unafraid of taking action that’s outside of her comfort zone.

She’s always leaning in.

She needs to start leaning out.

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Are You Being Misinterpreted?

Do you worry about being perceived in a negative way?

It’s often this fear that keeps my clients and other women from doing what they know they need to.

Avoiding self-promotion or asking for one because they don’t want to appear arrogant, demanding, entitled, etc…

Not wanting to follow up with a client because they don’t want to be interpreted as desperate, needy, pushy, etc….

Not wanting to have a challenging conversation because they don’t want to appear confrontational, demanding, etc…

These are all possible and potential outcomes. 

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3 Habits that Will Limit Your Career and What You Can Do to Change

I was speaking with a client the other day who had lead her entire life with a deep desire and drive to prove herself, which she did time after time.  She strove for perfection and her track record was amazing.  She was a ‘go-to’ person. Everyone knew she’d get it done and well.

Despite her successes, accomplishments and promotions, she lacked a true belief in herself, which drove her need to please and prove.

She’s not alone. 

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3 Ways to Own your Value and Self-Promote

The other day I was on a call with a client who was trying to figure out how to make sure the right people were aware of the value she brings.

She needed to self-promote.

When you think of self-promoting what words come to mind?

Cheesy, inauthentic, awkward, cheap, uncomfortable, pushy, etc…. 

If I haven’t said yours, fill in the blank here…….

Unfortunately self-promoting is something that so many of us shy away from because it feels uncomfortable.

The reality is self-promoting is something we all need to do, unless status quo is what you are going for.

No matter what your title may be, we have to sell ourselves because there are so many others doing exactly what we do.

Similar in titles and years of experience, but NOT why and how we do it.

If you don’t self-promote, you are choosing to swim amongst the sea of fish, vs stand out so you can be seen. Valued.

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3 Ways to Own Your Value and Self-Promote:

1.     The YOU Factor         

What do you want to own that truly set you apart and makes you YOU?

What experiences in your life do you want to acknowledge that you draw on or are transferable, relevant and add value to the outcomes you create?

Trust that your YOU factor doesn’t have to be shared with anyone else. It just has to be owned, acknowledged and valued by you.

Your YOU factor is about acknowledging and drawing from other aspects of your life that impact the way you work, the why and how you go about doing what you do.  It’s what differentiates you amongst the sea of fish.

It’s what sets you apart from the rest. 

It’s the YOU Factor that’s creates your unique value.

It’s the same for you as a CA, CFA, marketer, consultant, publicist, sales person, whatever your title may be.

The landscape is littered with executive coaches.  I am technically a dime a dozen amongst those who have graduated from the same certification program, have been practicing for the same number of years or more.  If I were to hang my hat up on my title or my years of experience you wouldn’t be reading this post.

2.     It Doesn’t Serve To Play Small  

Marianne Williamson says it best “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?  …”   You can read the rest of the quote at the bottom THIS page.

Who are you to play small?  Owning your value has nothing to do with ego.

3.    Celebrate and Let Them Know

The reality is that we don’t have people shadowing our every move, patting us on the back and celebrating who we are and what we are doing.

It’s for this reason that you need to stop, acknowledge and celebrate your own successes big or small.

The second step is to ask yourself “…and WHO needs to know?” 

Don’t just assume that people are paying attention. It’s your responsibility to put your accomplishment and the value you bring on their radar.

Which point resonates the most with you and why?  We’d love to hear.

 

If these resonate but you still feel uncertain about self-promoting, or anything else you are avoiding for that matter, you won’t want to miss my upcoming FREE CALL that is going to show you exactly how to do what you are avoiding.  Click HERE.

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