3 Ways to Navigate Difficult People

I recently had a conversation with a friend who was wrongfully dismissed from her job.

Blind sighted.

Totally unexpected. 

Retrospectively she can now see how her boss had been planning her demise for the past 6 months.

No matter if it’s a boss, colleague, family member, neighbour, etc… difficult people are all around.

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3 Steps to A New Beginning

September feels like a new beginning. I know I am not alone.

Between my friends and clients it is amazing how many have shared the same.

Sometimes our new beginnings are FORCED, like my client who was told she has to look for another job.

Other times, it’s a CHOICE, like for my friend who has chosen to quit the job she hated…
And then there’s everything in between from divorce to moving cities, etc.

For me, my new beginning stems from the fact that I chose to unplug and totally disconnect from work over the summer. There were so many benefits and I feel very grateful to have done it, however it does come at a cost.

My calendar feels less than stellar and it’s time for me to re-focus to make sure that one year from now, I don’t look back and feel that I’m still in the same spot.

Even if you don’t have a new beginning “happening”, you can Choose for September to be an intentional starting point.

Here are three things I am going to do and you can too:

#1 STOP AND GET CLEAR.
This is where we get clarity about what we want to transpire between now and 6, 10, 12 months from now, or whatever time frame works for you.

You can even start by asking yourself:

“What do I want more of?” and “What do I want less of?”

Then get SPECIFIC about your goals.
I find that with a plan, I feel like I am in the driver’s seat, vs having my wheels spinning and not making any traction.

#2 TAKE ACTION.
Enough said.
A tactic is to schedule your activity. Put your priorities into your calendar to make time for them.

#3 BE GRATEFUL
This summer I was introduced to a really simple concept that resonated with me.

The concept comes from a man who I had never heard of prior to watching his video. His name is Vishen Lakhiani of www.mindvalley.com. He shares how his business and life thrive and prosper when he’s in FLOW.

Which in concept is a balance between being:

GRATEFUL AND HAPPY FOR TODAY       AND       HAVING A CLEAR VISION OF WHERE YOU ARE GOING

I know that I often get stuck and focus on what I have yet to achieve or the gap between where I am vs where I want to be, or what I’m not doing.

I know it’s not helpful.

It impacts my ability to enjoy the moment and be happy for what I have created and have in my life.

I know that feeling happy propels me at work and in life to do better.
So, being in FLOW is my new Choice.

I invite you to follow these 3 steps and create your purposeful beginning too.

 

Giving Yourself Props

This idea came to me on Halloween morning when my son decided to change his costume, amidst the chaos of a regular pre-school morning.  He was in indecision mode for quite a while, which would normally drive me CRAZY, because I still had lunches to make, a daughter to wake, etc….Thank goodness we found a solution that he was thrilled with and we all managed to make it to school on time.

Post drop off, I called my girlfriend out of a strong desire just to give myself props.  I could have easily been so frustrated and lost my patience but I didn’t.  I was quite proud of the fact that I navigated the scenario in a way that in retrospect didn’t embarrass me! I consciously chose in that moment to respond with patience. 

My need to share had nothing to do with ego, it was more about delight that I didn’t buckle under pressure. I stayed the course I had wanted to.

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