Every day I am amazed by the number of incredible, competent, intelligent and driven women who share with me the fact that they question themselves.
Do you ever find yourself:
Second guessing if you are good enough?
Worried that someone is going to realize you aren’t as smart as they thought you were?
Worrying that somebody is going to discover your dirty little secret?
Fearful that you won’t live up to people’s expectations?
Jay-Z has inspired me.
This past weekend I started reading his book Decoded after Vishen Lakhiani, a thought leader I respect, Tweeted the recommendation.
Ironically, it’s been lying on my husband’s bed side table for months. At some point I had even flipped through but came to the conclusion it wasn’t for me.
I was wrong.
It was exactly what I needed to read.
I used to get frustrated when the end of the week would roll around and I still hadn’t done what I said I wanted to do. Even with the best of intentions, I just got too busy.
One week would flow into the next and nothing would have changed.
Life got in the way.
I did it.
I faced my fear.
Yes, it’s my job to help professional women to Get Out of Their Own Way….and I too have to practice what I preach.
I was sitting on the ledge. Wanting to go into unchartered territories…but avoiding. I have a goal of launching P.O.W.E.R Advisory Boards within corporations. An opportunity for professional women, across business units, to connect and learn from each other’s experiences.
To stop trying to figure it out alone.
I know that shared experiences decrease learning curves and increase results. But most importantly, they create the opportunity for women to expand their networks, authentically, with other like-minded, ambitious women, who want to thrive as a whole, at work and in life.
Despite the fact that I know how impactful, effective and helpful this is, I wasn’t taking action. I was scared.
I just read The Confidence Gap, an interesting article describing why women’s and men’s are so far apart.
What I find intriguing about Katty Kay and Claire Shipman research is that it helps me to see WHY I am the way I am.
The reasons WHY this gap exists really resonated with me. The authors share findings from Carol Dweck’s “Mindset” (one of my favourite books) for example, early on in school, girls get a lot of praise for being perfect and that we choose to avoid taking risks and making mistakes.
I was the girl being describe throughout the article.
I still remember the only time I was in trouble was in grade 2 when I stood up for a boy who was being falsely accused by the librarian!
But, knowing WHY we don’t Lean In, isn’t good enough.