How to Do What Matters in 2016

I didn’t set a New Year’s Resolution.

I find them hard to keep.

I set a theme for the year.

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To remind me to make the choices that I can feel proud of moving through the year and towards my goals.

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What’s the Worst Thing That Can Happen?

So often we hold ourselves back from taking action, that’s outside of our comfort zone, because of fear.

Paralyzed by a NHO “Negative Hypothetical Outcome” that of course we want to avoid.

But truthfully, we have no idea what the outcome will be until we try, yet we are committed to the fact that it’s going to be negative.

So….let’s go there…

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3 Questions to Remember the Value of Slowing Down

As ambitious women, with full plates, so often we are goal centric.

Becoming hyper focused on our goals and delaying our happiness until the outcomes are achieved and/or missing out on so many other things transpiring around us while we push forward.

Ironically by doing this I bet that either one or both are impacting what’s most important to you.

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3 Questions to Shut Down Your Negative “What ifs”

I was recently speaking with a client who reminded me of how debilitating “What if” can be.

The anticipated negative outcomes that we spend too much time thinking about and that lead to inaction.  

Thoughts like:

What if they don’t like it….

What if I fail…

What if I don’t land the client…

It makes sense.

None of these ‘what ifs’ are remotely appealing so why would we even bother to take any action when the anticipated outcome is so negative.

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The truth is the outcomes are unknown and we have NO idea…

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3 Things to Remember When Navigating Tough Decisions

In the past few weeks I have been hearing from women who are feeling totally stuck.

Being at a point in their careers and lives where they have to make a big decision to take a course, to go for the promotion, etc… that impact not only them.

These women are ambitious and want to have exceptional careers and lives, and these decisions were being viewed as at the expense of their families.

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3 Steps to Take the Struggle Out of Your Juggle

I don’t like the word balance.

I feel that it sets us up for disappointment, and feelings of failure, inadequacy and overwhelm.

In the search for “balance” we often end up simply adding more balls to the ones we are already struggling to juggle.

Spending our everyday just passing ball after ball through the air on autopilot.

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Feeling Guilty is a Choice

I just finished a roadshow that had me away for 9 days.

My husband was hoping I’d come home from Calgary on the Friday for the weekend then back out for a Tuesday workshop.

With 3 kids 9 and under he thought this sounded reasonable.

I decided not to come home. 

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4 Beliefs to Fuel Your Action

I am on a roadshow.  Traveling to some of the most beautiful cities in western Canada hosting over 200 women along the way.

In every workshop my guests leave committed to doing something differently and I am reminded that we all have something to gain from taking inspired and purposeful action.

…. what’s the impact if you don’t take the actions you’ve been avoiding?

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3 Habits that Will Limit Your Career and What You Can Do to Change

I was speaking with a client the other day who had lead her entire life with a deep desire and drive to prove herself, which she did time after time.  She strove for perfection and her track record was amazing.  She was a ‘go-to’ person. Everyone knew she’d get it done and well.

Despite her successes, accomplishments and promotions, she lacked a true belief in herself, which drove her need to please and prove.

She’s not alone. 

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Do you really want to act that way?

This past weekend the topic of being short tempered and impatient came up a few times.  At work, towards the people we love the most, there were no limitations.

We all do it.  We are human.

I used to have a bad temper.  My buttons easily pushed by those closest to me.

My excuse, “It’s just the way I am, I can’t help it”.

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