How Are You Speaking to Yourself?

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I used to speak to myself with such unkindness, most of the time not even realizing it or it’s impact.

Luckily, I no longer do and shared a bit of my story in my most recent Huffington Post blog.

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Hope you enjoy… and think about share your story, or this article, with your daughters. It might be a new and invaluable perspective.

 

If you do the 24 Hour Challenge, please report back because I’d LOVE to hear how it goes.

You can share on any of the social platforms:

  • Twitter: @TurnerCoaching
  • Facebook: @GOOYOW – This is a closed Facebook group, so you know that the women in here are just like you. Wanting to thrive at work and in life, but we don’t know what we don’t know.  Be sure to join!  I’d love to hear from you.

Or simply stay connected on Insta: @GetOutOfOwnWay

Have an amazing day!

I Dropped The Ball

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It’s been a long time since I’ve shared.

As working women I know you can relate to juggling too many balls.  The feeling of just too much – that something has to give. My blog was a ball I chose to drop. 

I dropped it with a choice to be kind to myself. Full stop.

 

But now I’m back.

I have clarity and intention.

My mission is to be back in service to women just like us.

Women who want to:

  •        Thrive at work and in life but too often feel like we are failing at both.
  •         Do what we have been avoiding with increased confidence.
  •         Expand our networks in ways that add value to us and work within our schedule
  •         Connect with other like-minded women in relevant and productive ways
  •         Stop feeling like we are alone.
  •         Learn and leverage how others navigate similar scenarios

Sure, but why does it feel like such a challenge sometimes? 

Because this is life and our lives are full.  

And…it is the ONLY life we have to live.

What I now know is that the details around us are not going to change, just how we choose to navigate them can. 

But, we don’t know what we don’t know. 

Which leads me to my mission.  

My mission is to be an outlet for women, just like us. To plug into and to create the change we desire.  To leverage the experiences of other women in service of each other. I have some exciting new projects on the go that I CAN’T wait to share!

But in the meantime…

I just wrote a Huffington Post article titled: Is Status Quo Killing You? .

A great place to start is choosing to do things differently. To start taking inspired action. To get out of your own way, #GOOYOW, so you can live a life that brings you way more fun, joy, and success. 

Until the next time!

Best wishes, me.

3 Steps to Do What Scares You

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Last week I presented a “How to Self-Promote Authentically, with Confidence” keynote to 250 people and that was big deal for me. I had convinced myself that my content was best delivered in more intimate settings.

When I accepted the invitation, from the Women’s Executive Network in Toronto, I assumed the group would be 30-50 people, 100 max.

Well I was wrong.

The week before the talk, I found out over 200 people had registered.

I was so scared, but I knew that quitting wasn’t an option.

Earlier today I posted “How to Do What Scares You” on the Huffington Post that I wanted to share with you.

I hope you enjoy the read!

 

 

How to Self-Promote: Even when you think you hate doing it.

When you think of self-promoting what words come to mind?

  • Cheesy
  • Sickening
  • Awkward
  • Desperate
  • Not me
  • Uncomfortable
  • Pushy, etc….

If I haven’t said yours, fill in the blank here…….

If your response is positive, that’s awesome, and feel free to stop reading here.

If it’s negative, you are not alone.

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What Are You Waiting For?

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Where has the time gone.

I last signed off with an idea of what I wanted my summer months to look and feel like.

It didn’t happen.

My summer and months to follow were rocked by Cancer.

I’m not complaining, it’s just our family’s truth.

Since then, my aunt passed away and my mom underwent a successful colon surgery.

All this to say, I am even more inspired and committed to getting out of my own way.

To do exactly what I encourage so many other women to do.

For me, it’s about an idea I have been thinking about for far too long.

Disrupting my status quo.

I know that so many of you too want something different, but a week, a month, a year goes by… and nothing’s changed.

Maybe for you it’s because:

  • A fear of failure?
  • A fear that if you change something, someone else will be sacrificed?
  • Your family or your life’s equilibrium will be rocked?
  • You are worried what people may think?
  • Something different?

Whatever it may be, our answers are excuses.

A reason to keep status quo.

To stay in our comfort zone.

It’s all about #GOOYOW. Choosing to Get Out of Your Own Way.

So….You up for a kick start?  A challenge?

If so, I’ve created one called 3 Days to Disrupt Your Status Quo: Drive your desired results at work and in life.

You can join HERE for free.

I’ve taken the challenge and disrupted my status quo.

I’m launching a new platform called Your Power Outlet.

It’s still a work in progress, but if I wait until it’s perfect, I may wait forever.

It’s where real women plug in to drive their desired change at work and in life.  Where you equip yourselves with tools that transform the habits that are not serving you and replacing them with ones that will.

It feels so good to take inspired action.

To stop thinking, wishing and hoping for something to be different.

It’s about taking one step at a time.

So…..what’s it going to be for you?

Not sure?

Take the Challenge.

Welcome to the #PowerTribe

3 Ways to Make Your Everyday Count

I used to get frustrated when the end of the week would roll around and I still hadn’t done what I said I wanted to do.  Even with the best of intentions, I just got too busy.

One week would flow into the next and nothing would have changed.

Life got in the way.

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Dare to Dream…Bigger

Dreaming doesn’t come easy to me.

I only started giving myself permission to dream a few years ago.

I avoided it at all costs out of a fear of not achieving whatever I may have aspired for.  I equated dreaming to setting goals, which I also avoided.

I didn’t want to fall short of them, to fail.

I can see the shortcomings of my old approach in how I operated my previous company Pippalily.  No clear direction of where I was going or what I was working towards. I chased shinny object, was easily distracted and wasn’t aware of the impact until after I had sold.

My old approach can be equated to taking a yearlong road trip without a final destination.

Spending a lot of time, energy and money but at the end of the year, in spite of some good times, may not be any further ahead than where I had started.

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Recently, before our Canadian boys took to the ice against Russia to win GOLD at the World Junior Championships, my husband, our oldest kids and I had an incredible opportunity to be inspired by two exceptional Canadian athletes, Jennifer Botterill and Chris Pronger, in a Fireside chat hosted by RBC.

One of the vivid takeaways was when Jennifer shared a memory of a dinner with her father at the age of 15.  He asked her about her dreams. She told him she wanted to play for Canada in the Olympics, but didn’t know if she could do it.  His response was “Why not you!”.   She’s since won 3!

Her dream was bold.

It was going to take a lot of work without any guarantees, but she owned it anyway.

She allowed herself to dream BIG….and I realized that I too want to play BIGGER.

I now dream, but I realized I was still muting them. 

In that moment, I realized that despite the fact that I’ve been planning my 2015 when I look at my goals from this perspective I was still playing small.

I was limiting myself.

How about you?  Are you also playing small?

It’s not about discounting our original goals or desires for 2015, but what if they were stepping stones to something even bigger than we had acknowledged for ourselves for this year or in the future?

Let’s do this.

Let’s dream ……BIGGER than you may have already planned for (or maybe you haven’t yet) in 2015.

3 STEPS TO DREAMING BIGGER

1.     Trust that it’s OK not to know exactly HOW it will happen.

2.     Ask Yourself:

  • What are some things that would be so incredibly delicious and amazing to have achieved or experienced in the years to come?
  • What do you want to accomplish this year that will position you to be well on your way?

3.     Write Them Down.

The process can be thrilling if you allow yourself.

Dare to Dream…..Bigger!

Here’s to an awesome 2015!!!

What are you tolerating?

No matter who I speak with, at work or in life, the common consensus is “Life is BUSY!”  Children or no children, we seem to fill our time.

My days are full with to dos but what I’m noticing is all of the wasted time.

I’m talking about the things that are consuming my time because I haven’t been bothered to deal with them.

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Are You Good Enough?

This week a client shared that she was offered a promotion that would mean leaving her comfort zone.

She’d be doing the same type of job, but in a new environment, with new colleagues, new clients and with a lot of unknowns.

She came to the call questioning if she was good enough for this new job.

Early on in our discussion she rarely acknowledged the reinforcing facts that they approached her, the service she provides for her clients, the positive things people say about her work, etc…

It’s incredible how often we default to thinking poorly about and questioning ourselves. 

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