I was recently speaking with a client who reminded me of how debilitating “What if” can be.
The anticipated negative outcomes that we spend too much time thinking about and that lead to inaction.
What if they don’t like it….
What if I fail…
What if I don’t land the client…
It makes sense.
None of these ‘what ifs’ are remotely appealing so why would we even bother to take any action when the anticipated outcome is so negative.
The truth is the outcomes are unknown and we have NO idea…
Yet we are still committed to thinking that the outcome is going to be negative.
We are doing this to ourselves.
I call these Negative Hypothetical Outcomes (NHOs) and we are making them up.
NHOs are autopilot responses that most of us have practiced our entire lives.
It’s NHO that are keeping so many of us within our comfort zones, afraid to do what we know we have to.
NHOs will continue to limit you until you decide to change your thoughts.
Is there something you are shying away from because of an NHO?
If so, here are 3 Questions to Ask Yourself to Shut It Down:
- What’s a PHO, Positive Hypothetical Outcome? You are making up the negative, so go ahead, what’s a positive outcome?
- Historical Proof? Re: the outcome that you fear, how often has this happen to you in the past?
- What are your Truths? What can you acknowledge about your competencies and strengths around this topic or situation?
The details around you won’t change, just how you chose to respond to them will.
It’s up to you to choose to shut down your autopilot responses. To start to create the change so you can live outside of your comfort zone and achieve what you desire in your life.
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