Life would have been so different had I known then what I know now.
Not from the work and life experiences I’ve gained over my time on earth, but how I would have navigated the thoughts in my mind.
Growing up I was consumed by what people thought of me.
I truly felt that everyone was judging me. That people were always watching me critically at school, in sports, at work and even socially.
I was always concerned about people figuring out that I wasn’t as smart, kind or as good of an athlete as they thought I was.
I know that I’m not the only person who felt this way.
Unfortunately, based on the multiple conversations I have daily, far too many of us still feel this way.
I feel grateful that I now know that we get to choose how we think and feel about ourselves, and that there’s no ego involved in being kind and trusting in the value we have to offer.
Here are the Top 10 Things that I would have loved my younger self to have known:
- You are more than good enough in this moment, just the way you are.
- The people around you are not trying to expose your faults.
- Ask for what you need. People want to be helpful. If they can’t give it to you, move along and find it from somewhere or someone else.
- Even when you do ‘fail’, or fall short of what you had hoped for, it’s just a moment in time. It too shall pass. It doesn’t define you. Use is as an opportunity to see what you need to do differently next time and move along.
- People want to see you succeed and thrive.
- You can’t do it alone.
- You don’t need to have all of the answers. Nobody can or does. The most successful people in this world, whether athletes, business people surround themselves with people they can learn from.
- Everything will work out, give it time.
- Nobody is perfect. Stop trying to pretend you are.
- Rock your short sorts.
What would change if these became mute points for those after us? If they already knew and owned these?
What would change if you owned these?
We’d love to hear if there is one point that you want to remind yourself of as you move forward?
Or what else would you add?
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