My 5 Leadership Lessons from Boxing

I love to box.

I started in University 19 years ago and I was training to get in the ring.  There was only one problem, I had no desire to punch another human being in the face. I chalk this up to being one of three girls and my eldest sister wouldn’t even let my leg touch hers in the car.

I loved the intensity of the training though, so I continued outside of the ring.

I ended up training in Halifax for a few years and then stopped until last year when I started again at Center Ring with some amazing trainers. I only go once a week but this past week’s experience prompted this post.


Looking back, MY 5 LESSONS started at the very beginning.


I never would have assumed that something amazing would come out of a dingy boxing gym in the basement of a church in Halifax.  That two men from my gym would introduce me to my husband.  (Total tangent: The best part of the ‘how we met’ story, is that I only spoke to the three of them for a few minutes but when I walked away, my husband told his friends “That’s the girl I’m going to marry….” and 19 year later here we are.)

YOU?  What assumptions are you making that are limiting you? 

Own it and stop it, because you never know. I may never have met Scott had I not been willing to try something new either.


On my way to the gym that day, I was listening to an interview with a musician who eight months ago had been interviewed by the same person, at a very small and obscure club. Fast forward eight months and tickets to see him were selling for $1,800.  Listening to his story was so inspiring because who knows what can or will change if you continue to move forward, purposefully.

YOU? If you aren’t feeling inspired, it’s up to you to change in the moment.  Here are a few of my favourites:  audiobooks, books, videos, TED Talks, going for a coffee with someone who inspires me, etc….

3. YOU ARE A LEADER, despite how qualified you think you are.

After an hour of hitting the heavy bag, the woman beside me came over and said “I am so glad I was beside you. I was following you. You inspired me to work harder.”   I was reminded that we have no idea who is looking to or at us. No matter what our title is, how many years of experience we’ve had or how good we think we are or are not, we are all leadersWe have no idea who we are inspiring. 

YOU? If you can’t own this fact, Robin Sharma wrote a great book  titled The Leader Who Had No Title


I was just about to give up, I was exhausted, but decided to see if I could go further…and I could. It’s up to us to push past our Self Imposed Limits.  

YOU? Here’s a challenge, no matter what you are doing this week, whenever you are at the point of giving up, challenge yourself to take inspired action to push past what you think is possible and you’ll be amazed.


I was having my hands wrapped before class and in conversation our trainer mentioned that he doubted 26 people would come today. That’s our class max. Guess what, 26 came.  It adds no value to have limiting thoughts.  Why bother spending the time and energy on what we don’t want to happen.

YOU? What would happen if over the next week, you were really mindful about what you are thinking and saying.  Stop saying the: “I doubt…”, “It will never happen..”, “I can’t….”, “It’s not possible…”

Which one of these 5 lessons resonates the most? 

Here’s an opportunity:  Focus on that one point for the balance of the week. See what changes for you. 

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Success: 5 Secrets to Creating Your Own From A Recovered Perfectionist

I spent most of my life trying to figure everything out alone.  I had such an unwillingness to ask for help. To allow others to see that I didn’t know what I was doing, or that I wasn’t smart or resourceful enough to figure it out alone. 

One of the most challenging times that I remember was when I had an infant and a two year old, was trying to run my home, be a present mother and wife while building and from my home office…that had no door to shut.

No fun.

I wasn’t doing anything well, despite the incredible amount of time and energy I spent doing everything.


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3 Ways to Make Your Everyday Count

I used to get frustrated when the end of the week would roll around and I still hadn’t done what I said I wanted to do.  Even with the best of intentions, I just got too busy.

One week would flow into the next and nothing would have changed.

Life got in the way.

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Dare to Dream…Bigger

Dreaming doesn’t come easy to me.

I only started giving myself permission to dream a few years ago.

I avoided it at all costs out of a fear of not achieving whatever I may have aspired for.  I equated dreaming to setting goals, which I also avoided.

I didn’t want to fall short of them, to fail.

I can see the shortcomings of my old approach in how I operated my previous company Pippalily.  No clear direction of where I was going or what I was working towards. I chased shinny object, was easily distracted and wasn’t aware of the impact until after I had sold.

My old approach can be equated to taking a yearlong road trip without a final destination.

Spending a lot of time, energy and money but at the end of the year, in spite of some good times, may not be any further ahead than where I had started.


Recently, before our Canadian boys took to the ice against Russia to win GOLD at the World Junior Championships, my husband, our oldest kids and I had an incredible opportunity to be inspired by two exceptional Canadian athletes, Jennifer Botterill and Chris Pronger, in a Fireside chat hosted by RBC.

One of the vivid takeaways was when Jennifer shared a memory of a dinner with her father at the age of 15.  He asked her about her dreams. She told him she wanted to play for Canada in the Olympics, but didn’t know if she could do it.  His response was “Why not you!”.   She’s since won 3!

Her dream was bold.

It was going to take a lot of work without any guarantees, but she owned it anyway.

She allowed herself to dream BIG….and I realized that I too want to play BIGGER.

I now dream, but I realized I was still muting them. 

In that moment, I realized that despite the fact that I’ve been planning my 2015 when I look at my goals from this perspective I was still playing small.

I was limiting myself.

How about you?  Are you also playing small?

It’s not about discounting our original goals or desires for 2015, but what if they were stepping stones to something even bigger than we had acknowledged for ourselves for this year or in the future?

Let’s do this.

Let’s dream ……BIGGER than you may have already planned for (or maybe you haven’t yet) in 2015.


1.     Trust that it’s OK not to know exactly HOW it will happen.

2.     Ask Yourself:

  • What are some things that would be so incredibly delicious and amazing to have achieved or experienced in the years to come?
  • What do you want to accomplish this year that will position you to be well on your way?

3.     Write Them Down.

The process can be thrilling if you allow yourself.

Dare to Dream…..Bigger!

Here’s to an awesome 2015!!!