I love to box.
I started in University 19 years ago and I was training to get in the ring. There was only one problem, I had no desire to punch another human being in the face. I chalk this up to being one of three girls and my eldest sister wouldn’t even let my leg touch hers in the car.
I loved the intensity of the training though, so I continued outside of the ring.
I ended up training in Halifax for a few years and then stopped until last year when I started again at Center Ring with some amazing trainers. I only go once a week but this past week’s experience prompted this post.
Looking back, MY 5 LESSONS started at the very beginning.
1. STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS.
I never would have assumed that something amazing would come out of a dingy boxing gym in the basement of a church in Halifax. That two men from my gym would introduce me to my husband. (Total tangent: The best part of the ‘how we met’ story, is that I only spoke to the three of them for a few minutes but when I walked away, my husband told his friends “That’s the girl I’m going to marry….” and 19 year later here we are.)
YOU? What assumptions are you making that are limiting you?
Own it and stop it, because you never know. I may never have met Scott had I not been willing to try something new either.
2. GET INSPIRED.
On my way to the gym that day, I was listening to an interview with a musician who eight months ago had been interviewed by the same person, at a very small and obscure club. Fast forward eight months and tickets to see him were selling for $1,800. Listening to his story was so inspiring because who knows what can or will change if you continue to move forward, purposefully.
YOU? If you aren’t feeling inspired, it’s up to you to change in the moment. Here are a few of my favourites: audiobooks, books, videos, TED Talks, going for a coffee with someone who inspires me, etc….
3. YOU ARE A LEADER, despite how qualified you think you are.
After an hour of hitting the heavy bag, the woman beside me came over and said “I am so glad I was beside you. I was following you. You inspired me to work harder.” I was reminded that we have no idea who is looking to or at us. No matter what our title is, how many years of experience we’ve had or how good we think we are or are not, we are all leaders. We have no idea who we are inspiring.
YOU? If you can’t own this fact, Robin Sharma wrote a great book titled The Leader Who Had No Title.
4. YOU DON’T KNOW YOUR LIMITS.
I was just about to give up, I was exhausted, but decided to see if I could go further…and I could. It’s up to us to push past our Self Imposed Limits.
YOU? Here’s a challenge, no matter what you are doing this week, whenever you are at the point of giving up, challenge yourself to take inspired action to push past what you think is possible and you’ll be amazed.
5. SHUT DOWN NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.
I was having my hands wrapped before class and in conversation our trainer mentioned that he doubted 26 people would come today. That’s our class max. Guess what, 26 came. It adds no value to have limiting thoughts. Why bother spending the time and energy on what we don’t want to happen.
YOU? What would happen if over the next week, you were really mindful about what you are thinking and saying. Stop saying the: “I doubt…”, “It will never happen..”, “I can’t….”, “It’s not possible…”
Which one of these 5 lessons resonates the most?
Here’s an opportunity: Focus on that one point for the balance of the week. See what changes for you.
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