Create A “Not Doing” List

This time of year I feel a lot of pressure on my time.

I know I’m not alone based on yesterday’s Globe and Mail article by Adriana Braton called The 70% Solution.

It’s a crazy time of year. 

We are living our already full regular day-to-day lives then loading on the holiday traditions, commitments, responsibilities, etc….: decorating, hanging lights, parties, gingerbread houses, planning for, buying and mailing presents…….

Do you have more to add? 



Just thinking about everything I could be doing was leaving me feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, frustrated, torn….with too much to do in such a short period of time.

Yes, I should have, could have started earlier….but I haven’t.

This is my reality.

The irony is when I just look at the feelings above, this is how life can and sometimes feels all year-long.

No fun.

What I’ve decided to do is take a page from my day-to-day life and apply it to this season.  Getting really clear about what’s important to ME about the holidays and making these my priorities that won’t be overlooked:

  • Not feeling crazy – like creating a list and sticking to who gets what.
  • Quality time
  • Downtime

What are yours?

These then act as our guide.

For example when an invite for a party comes or even if you RSVP a long time ago, refer to your list to be reminded about what’s important to you, and it becomes easier and way more clear about what you want to do, what you want to decline, let go of,  delegate,  etc.

Without a clear idea of the outcome we want for ourselves, we will spend our time on things that keep us from doing what we value and are most important to us.

Here are 2 steps you can start taking today:

1.     Make your ‘Not Doing’ List: Make a list of the things you ALREADY know you do NOT want to do this year. You won’t be alone and NO you aren’t selfish.  You can also refer back to Adriana’s article for inspiration.

2.      As demands/opportunities appear, ask yourself “ Does this add value to what’s important to me?”

  • If ‘Yes” – It’s a priority do it purposefully and have fun.
  • If “No” – Don’t do it, decline, delegate, ask for help, let it go, etc…

With each ‘NO’, you also have to ‘own and trust’ that you can’t control other people’s responses, all you can know is exactly WHY you are making your choices.

It’s worth it.

These tactics have helped me tremendously to create breathing room so I’m not filling my days with ‘busy’ priorities and creating space in my life for the things that are important to me and my every day.


Are you ready to make 2015 really count?

If so, I am thrilled to let you know that on Jan 27th I am inviting 10 women into my home for an intimate and impactful Planning Session. 

During this 3 hour workshop you will spend time getting clear about your key priorities for 2015, creating an Action Plan, and connecting and masterminding with awesome, like-minded women who too want more for themselves.

Spaces are limited so click HERE to reserve your seat.

Please feel free to forward this invitation to your community and network too.