Amongst the network of women I work and play with, I am constantly reminded of how often we miss out on opportunities because of the negative stories we are telling ourselves.
Do any of these sound familiar?
I don’t want to ask my question because I don’t want to sound dumb.
I can’t follow up with her or ask for the business because I don’t want to seem desperate.
I can’t say anything to my colleague because I don’t want him to take it the wrong way.
I don’t want to lead that team because I may not have all of the answers.
If these don’t resonate, here’s a chance to acknowledge your own sentence:
I don’t want to…………….. because……………………..
In all of these scenarios we are assuming that our outcomes are going to be negative.
The irony is that the outcomes are UNKNOWN. We don’t actually know what’s going to happen, but are willing to limit ourselves before we’ve even tried.
When I find myself in this situation, I remind myself that for every negative hypothetical outcome I am making up, there’s always another way to slice it.
What are you not doing because of a negative story you are telling yourself? What action are you not taking because of hypothetical outcome you are avoiding?
Here are 3 Questions to ask yourself so you can start leveraging your opportunities to thrive.
#1: What’s the limiting story you are telling yourself. (If I do “X”, then “Y” will happen.)
#2: What’s a positive hypothetical outcome?
#3: What’s the impact if you don’t take this action?
I believe that we are the biggest obstacles standing in our own way of success.
The stories we tell ourselves play a huge part in this. When you find yourself committed to a negative hypothetical outcome, remember that you are choosing to limit yourself and your career.