Just because she is, doesn’t mean you have to…..

A weekend experience inspired this blog post. It was the exact reminder I needed about my business and my life, and I’m pretty certain it is relevant to you too.

I love to snow shoe.

I love nothing more than putting on my head phones to listen to an audio book and heading into the wilderness. I love pushing myself. I love the solitude. I love the beauty. I love being alone.

On the trail a ‘business/life lesson’ hit me in the face.

I have captured it below in a very raw and ‘in the moment video’. DISCLAIMER. If you suffer from motion sickness or can’t stomach poor videos, read my post below vs watch the video. (I have learnt a lesson – STOP moving when you are shooting video;) I’ll know for next time.)

PS: When I turned my phone to make this video, it was then that I saw the black mascara smudges around both eyes. I walked by at least 20 people on my walk and nobody said a word. PLEASE, I am the person who wants to know!

Click here to watch the video: http://youtu.be/nQs4KVcwXLs

For those of you who can’t stomach poor quality video, keep reading:

My weekend snowshoe was looking like it was going to be hit or miss. I really wanted to head out, but we had one child vomiting at home, one in lessons and the other who couldn’t decide if he was too sick to ski or not;)

Needless to say, I found a 45 min window and headed out.

I had just started my walk when I had to stop to take off a layer.

I had overdressed.

While I undressed a woman ran past me, on her snow shoes.

Immediately I started to think, “I should be running too.” Convincing myself of the different reasons why I should be running “She’s getting a better workout”, “She is so much stronger than me”, “I should be working harder”, etc…

(All the while, totally overlooking my reality: I had been up all night with my sick child, I was tired and truly had no energy to run.)

I started to run, and didn’t make it more than 7 strides before I had to stop from sheer exhaustion.

So I kept walking, at a good pace.

I ended up reaching the top before she did.

This is when it hit me. There were 2 lessons for my life and business that just played out in real time:

 1. Just because someone else is doing it, doesn’t mean it’s best for you.
2. If you are clear on your final destinations, it’s up to you to figure out how you get there. Sometimes it is time to run.  Other times, it’s time to slow down and walk. Trust that you WILL get  there, but in a way that’s best for you and your family.

What have you found? Do you often look at others and compare?

Do you need to give yourself permission to take your foot off of the gas pedal for a moment…or maybe to press harder?  Here’s your chance to purposefully choose to do something different.  If you want to put it ‘out there’ to be held accountable, leave a comment here, or post it in my Turner Coaching FB page.  https://www.facebook.com/turner.coaching.9

I, we’d love to hear from you.


One thought on “Just because she is, doesn’t mean you have to…..

  1. Great post. You have so much real wisdom my friend. I have recently (Saturday) hit my point of exhaustion from sprinting when it doesn’t feel right. All the shoulds run through my head all the time. I hit my wall on saturday and told all of the shoulds to f-off. I’ve been a grumpy disconnected mamma, wife and person for 3 days now! Just walking away from it all today is making it better! So…. Thursday…. Want to grab a nite before/after to celebrate your upcoming bday?!?! Xxoo

    Sent from my iPhone

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