Until recently, I literally spent my entire life HATING to fail. I avoided failing at all cost. I was so afraid of it, I would steer way from doing things that were outside of my comfort zone. Things that I wasn’t sure I would be good at. Can you relate?
I’m know I’m not alone! I just read some research that indicated that typically women were not willing to apply for an internal job position unless they were confident they could fulfill 100% of the responsibilities, vs men only 60%. Unfortunately I am not surprised by the stats, because that was me. I had an unwillingness to undertake what I wasn’t certain I’d be able to do well.
This was until I realized that I could fail forward! (To borrow a term from John Maxwell)
I could choose to remove the “me” from failure and not make it personal.
Imagine your Goal as a dot well off the right side of this pict, plugging into your Power Zone gets you out of your Comfort Zone and into action to REACH your goals!
I have just started to read Sheryl Sandberg’s (COO of Facebook) book called Lean In. I am only 30 pages into the book, in the throes of all the reasons why things are how they are for women. What keeps popping up into my mind is….so what can we do about it! I’m sure Sheryl is going to get there, but I am a doer, and prefer to take action. I often ‘fail forward’ but that’s for another post;)
So what do you do when there’s an opportunity in front of you that also evokes your insecurities or self doubt? How do you move into action, when you are not feeling fully confident? Anyone?
I’ll go first. I personally plug into my “Power Zone “as a way to move past the self-doubt, the negative messages from the past and insecurities, and into action.